I was never able to see his flaws. I establish in my mind that he was perfect, that there was nothing he was incapable of and that he was invincible. Just how I view Cindy, and how others view me. People thought we were invincible, we're not, but we try to appear so. We’re only human, and we definitely have flaws. Some flaws, more visible then others, while other flaws are quietly hidden away, and when the moment gets tough, the tough pulls these flaws out and use it as a shield.
I created someone who was perfect in my imagination. I took one quality, and magnified it by a hundred folds and then added other qualities that could be linked to it. Cause ya know, I’m a linker baby ;) .
This is unfair on the other person because it puts immense pressure onto them to be something that they do not yet possess, but because it is so realistic in my mind, there is no question as to why they cannot possess such a quality.
BIG X NO. 1.
Accept that your partner/parent/friend/sibling is imperfect. Don't raise the bar too high and then entice them to jump that bar when they have had no training beforehand.
It is unrealistic, and unfair.
Enjoying being single for all the right reasons.
Annie - G
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